Do not dress up for your partner and dress up for yourself

Ladies and Gents!

Do not dress up for your partner and dress up for yourself

The few boyfriends I had before I got real fiance. they led me to believe I was too high maintenance. Not that being low maintenance is a bad thing either. but my high maintenance-ness didn't cost them a dime (of course I paid for my own make up, hair dye, stuff and clothes) it didn't waste their time ( I always allocated enough time to get dressed before i met up with them). It had nothing to do with me, but everything to do with how uncomfortable they were to have someone put together stand next to them. Instead of putting more effort to work out or to iron a shirt they decide to put down so I could stop looking so fantastical.

One boyfriend thought, did get to me. I started to feel really bad about dress up that I stopped. Little by little I let myself go and by the end of the relationship in my past he cheated on me I was left looking like someone I didn't even recognized.

so after that experience I told myself that no one should have a say in how I choose to feel about how I look. I like make up When I am not too lazy to put it on, when I get dressed I feel like million bucks. Although those things shouldn't be the reason why you are confident in yourself because with make up and clothes I still feel 100% . when I get dressed though, I feel 200% and I can rule the world.

My point is just be yourself and be happy doing what you like or what you want. If someone can't understand it and well they are loser. You putting effort in yourself is a good thing. It's not shallow, it  doesn't  mean you care too much about your looks, its mean you love yourself enough to care for yourself. On opposite end of that spectrum, just because you put little effort doesn't mean you hate yourself either. you might just be comfortable in your own skin and that's how is should be as well.
So the person you spend time with should always respect that you love yourself.

Yes, I might spend more time than the average girl but just because I put an extra 45 min into my looks doesn't mean I wasted 45 min. I woke up 45 min earlier than most. I can do everything anyone can make up, heels and pink hair inst handicap I'm just as productive creative when I want to be.

So do you love yourself and your confidence will attract the best kind of people. be happy being yourself.

Love, Channy \m/_

Hall-miliation!

                                                         Hall- miliation!

Before class one day, I walked to the showers down the hall and forget my keys. when I got back to my room, the door was locked and my roommate had left for class!. I had wake up another hallmate (in my robe) and used her phone call, my roommate, to let me in! it was a long, cold waiting in the hall as people on their way to class and laughed at me!!!!

Love,Channy \m/_

Gum-iliating moments

Traumara

"everyone had had humiliating moments"

I am a total gum addict, My first period summer teacher had no gum rule. During one class, I need minty freshness gum, so I decided to sneak some gum anyway. I was siting next to my friend in the front row, and she whispered something hilarious to me. I laughed and my gum flew right into my weave hair. I tried to discreetly pull it out, but it was struck bad. My teacher was so not happy, everyone tried to get it out. But it was ready in there and I refused to let them cut it out! so they had to call my mom and yup I had to call my mom to the rescue in high school.

Love, Channy \m/_

Quote

Hi everyone,

I want share with you 

I found this, I like it and do you like it? 

Love, Channy \m/_

What is it to be deaf?

 Hi Everyone!

I'm thinking about myself and wrote poem about "what is it to be deaf?" I hope anyone trade to my life compare your? maybe you will understand what is it to be deaf?" like you or everyone have same issue and being human.

"What is it like to be deaf?"

people have asked me.

Deaf? Oh, hmm... how do I explain that?

Simple: I can't hear.

No, wait... it is much more than that.

It is similar to a goldfish in a bowl,

Always observing things going on.

People talking at all times.

It is like a man on his own island

Among foreigners.

Isolation is no stranger to me.

Relatives say hi and bye

But I sit for 5 hours among them

Taking great pleasure at amusing babies

Or being amused by TV.

Reading books, resting, helping out with food.

Natural curiosity perks up

Upon seeing great laughter, crying, anger.

Inquiring only to meet with a "Never mind" or

"Oh, it's not important".

Getting a summarized statement

Of the whole day.

I'm supposed to smile to show my happiness.

Little do they know how truly miserable I am.

People are in control of language usage,

I am at loss and really uncomfortable!

Always feeling like an outsider

Among the hearing people,

Even though it was not their intention.

Always assuming that I am part of them

By my physical presence, not understanding

The importance of communication.

Facing the choice between Deaf Event weekend

or a family reunion.

Facing the choice between the family commitment

And Deaf friends.

I must make the choices constantly,

Any wonder why I choose Deaf friends???

I get such great pleasure at the Deaf clubs,

Before I realize it, it is already 2:00 am,

Whereas I anxiously look at the clock

Every few minutes at the Family Reunion.

With Deaf people, I feel so normal,

Our communication flows back and forth.

Catch up with little trivials, our daily life,

Our frustration in the bigger world,

Seeking the mutual understanding,

Contented smiles and laughter are musical.

So magical to me,

So attuned to each other's feelings.

True happiness is so important.

I feel more at home with Deaf people

Of various color, religion, short or tall.

Than I do among my own hearing relatives.

And you wonder why?

Our language is common.

We understand each other.

Being at loss of control

Of the environment that is communication,

People panic and retreat to avoid

Deaf people are like the plague.

But Deaf people are still human beings

With dreams, desires, and needs

To belong, just like everyone else.

Love, Channy \m/_

countdown to confidence!

Your life: Countdown to confidence


"Everyone keep telling you to start the year off strong" here's how

Your 5- day plan

1 Day- list your strengths jot down fine thing you like about yourself(suck as how you're a great friend) then put the list inside the front cover of note boo for instant boost each day.

2 Day- set an easy goal for the first eek of school or work like sign up for do something fitness excerise or else, chorus mini accomplishment help  you realize that bigger ones like snagging a part in the school or work.  really are within read

3 Day-  get a mani with mom or grab dad for pizza.
setting this thing time with the mind with your family always behind you this will give strength  one classes or work start and thing get totally stressful.

4 Day- Say like least
Practice talking to a mirror, try not to say um or like: speak in a loud.clear ton, and keep your shoulder back. When you talk like you believe in yourself, people will begin to take you more seriously.

5 Day- say thankful
just three thing you're grateful for and each night, odd three more. focus on thing that make you happy teaches you to think postivily and feel good, Which is the key to real confidence.


Love, Channy \m/_

Will be right back!

Hello everyone!

I'm sorry and I will be right back on this blogger, I'll miss you xoxo!

I'm going to go away on vacation right now , I'm going to try  to get away from the phone,computer etc.
I won't forget I will continuing on my blogger soon! I'll post soon!.

Love, Channy \m/_