Do not dress up for your partner and dress up for yourself

Ladies and Gents!

Do not dress up for your partner and dress up for yourself

The few boyfriends I had before I got real fiance. they led me to believe I was too high maintenance. Not that being low maintenance is a bad thing either. but my high maintenance-ness didn't cost them a dime (of course I paid for my own make up, hair dye, stuff and clothes) it didn't waste their time ( I always allocated enough time to get dressed before i met up with them). It had nothing to do with me, but everything to do with how uncomfortable they were to have someone put together stand next to them. Instead of putting more effort to work out or to iron a shirt they decide to put down so I could stop looking so fantastical.

One boyfriend thought, did get to me. I started to feel really bad about dress up that I stopped. Little by little I let myself go and by the end of the relationship in my past he cheated on me I was left looking like someone I didn't even recognized.

so after that experience I told myself that no one should have a say in how I choose to feel about how I look. I like make up When I am not too lazy to put it on, when I get dressed I feel like million bucks. Although those things shouldn't be the reason why you are confident in yourself because with make up and clothes I still feel 100% . when I get dressed though, I feel 200% and I can rule the world.

My point is just be yourself and be happy doing what you like or what you want. If someone can't understand it and well they are loser. You putting effort in yourself is a good thing. It's not shallow, it  doesn't  mean you care too much about your looks, its mean you love yourself enough to care for yourself. On opposite end of that spectrum, just because you put little effort doesn't mean you hate yourself either. you might just be comfortable in your own skin and that's how is should be as well.
So the person you spend time with should always respect that you love yourself.

Yes, I might spend more time than the average girl but just because I put an extra 45 min into my looks doesn't mean I wasted 45 min. I woke up 45 min earlier than most. I can do everything anyone can make up, heels and pink hair inst handicap I'm just as productive creative when I want to be.

So do you love yourself and your confidence will attract the best kind of people. be happy being yourself.

Love, Channy \m/_